I was watching a major international sporting event on television recently and a conversation between three commentators caught my attention and got me thinking.

The commentators were talking about a current player that has had massive success in the last twelve months. The commentators were quite surprised that this player was having great success considering his technique has many obvious flaws. They felt his technique was very different to champion players of the past and not the sort of technique that you would encourage children learning the sport to use.

One commentator summed up the conversation by saying: "this man is a classic example that you must do what works for you."

I heard that line and I wanted to stand up and clap.

Don't listen to people who tell you what to do. Listen to people who encourage you to do what you know in your heart is right.

What way will work for you? Figure it out and then start doing it.

The F word that I am writing about can and should be said in front of children. The F word that I am writing about doesn't have to be bleeped out when it is said on television. The F word that I am writing about has more than four letters. The F word that I am writing about will take you from living in the past to living in the present moment.

The F word that I am writing about is forgiveness.

I saw a television show recently that was an amazing example of forgiveness. The show was about a father that had to deal with the murder of his teenage son. The father said that the key to him overcoming this tragedy was forgiving the person that killed his son

I had a conversation recently with a woman that told me she was still mad about a rude comment her old boss made ten years ago. She told me the boss at her old job called her a "stupid idiot".

One person can forgive murder and another person cannot forgive an insensitive comment.

"Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace." - Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Who do you need to forgive? Start with forgiving yourself.

A story about Jack and Bill......

Jack opens his letterbox and finds two letters. One letter is a speeding fine and the other is a donation request from the National breast cancer foundation. Jack opens both letters and turns to his friend and says:

"I was only going 15km/h over the speed limit and now I have to pay $250. What a disgrace! This makes me so angry. I should write a letter to the government and complain about this. I feel like punching a hole in a wall. I have bills piling up and now I have to deal with this! I feel like the world is against me! This has ruined my day!"

Jack then takes a quick look at the donation request from the National breast cancer foundation and throws it in the bin.

"Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it" - Charles R. Swindoll

Bill opens his letterbox and finds two letters. One letter is a speeding fine and the other is a donation request from the National breast cancer foundation. Bill opens both letters and turns to his friend and says:

"Breast cancer is such a horrible disease. I hope a cure is found soon. When my auntie died of breast cancer 5 years ago it changed the way I looked at life. It made me realise how lucky I am and that you must appreciate what you have. That experience made me a much more positive person."

Bill then looks at the speeding fine and realises he needs to pay closer attention to the speed limit when he drives. Bill then goes to his computer, gets online and makes two payments. He pays the speeding fine and he also makes a small donation to the National breast cancer foundation.

Jack and Bill received the same letters. Jack sees problems. Bill sees blessings.

What do you see in your life?